children who deep, deep inside feel lost and very fearful. They
donít want to experience their painful feelings. In an attempt to
regain their position, they make fun of others or they command others
to do their bidding. Bullies intimidate others in the hope that they
gain respect and recognition. However, they create just the
opposite situation. Unfortunately, these bullies havenít learned how
to deal with their emotions and feelings in a constructive way Ė
they are out of control when it comes to dealing with their emotions..
As a result, they contribute to the creation of new bullies. Sadly
enough, this causes the chain of bullying and intimidation to
are natural and need to be felt and expressed (e-motion
= energy in motion). If not expressed, not understood and tucked
away over and over again, emotions get distorted and we start to overreact.
Our emotions may boomerang one day, creating havoc to self and others.
A SURVIVAL KIT
I am fortunate to have worked with mentally and physically challenged
children in Europe for more than 10 years. I say fortunate because
these children taught me about inner strength and the human spirit.
They wanted to live and have fun despite their circumstances. They
inspired me to come up with answers to make them ready for the world.
developed a program to recognize and focus on their strengths and how
to deal with their feelings and emotions. I created a 'survival kit'
filled with tools for happy living.
program has emerged into several books and a special program for young
children -age 3-7, called the
It teaches children they are in charge of their own behavior and
feelings. Best of all, it teaches them that they
can change how they feel despite their circumstances.
They are taught how to 'Flip the Switch'- and
how to contribute to their own well being as well as that of others. Parents
and teachers also learn concepts to reinforce the lessons and
enhance the effectiveness of the program.
children are taught these basics at an early age in an uplifting way,
they are far ahead of the game and they will always remember them, no
matter what. Without those basics, they may no longer be certain of
who they are or where they are going. Children are wizards, we just
need to remind them how to regain their self-confidence or reclaim
their happiness when they feel lost.
A WOOLLY WIZARD
We may not always be
able or have the time to help or protect our children. Therefore, they
need to have their own tools, know how to access them and how to
use them in an empowering way. We can teach children that they
have a choice to be a bully wizard or a Woolly Wizard.